I am linking up with Melanie and Holly to write about our wedding day. I have to say, if I had the whole thing to do over again, I would have done a lot of it differently. But, you can't change the past and the best part of it all is that we got married, we LOVED and still do LOVE each other, and we are happy.
Derek and I were expecting Dane when we got engaged. Yep. I was pregnant before I got married.
He proposed to me in the sweetest, most romantic way I could have ever asked for.
We went to dinner at our favorite resteraunt at the time, Houlihans. After dinner, he asked me to watch TV in our room which was a little odd because he NEVER wants to lay in bed and watch the old TV when we have DVR and HD on the big TV in the living room. So I thought that was odd. So we watch some tv, and he goes out to the living room for a while. I start to wonder what he's doing.Well just then, at 7 p.m. on the dot, I start getting text messages from everyone that I know saying "Congrats!!!" and I am like WTF?? So I run out to the living room and he is one one knee, with a dozen roses next to him, and a ring in his hand. He gave a sweet little speech, his words a little shaky. I said yes, and we both cried. It was one of the best moments of our entire life. I will never forget the pure, scary, all-in love that we felt for each other in that moment.
We knew that we were not in a rush to get married, espeically because I was about 5 months pregnant at the time and I didn't want to be a pregnant bride. I wanted to hopefully wait until the next fall and we kind of put it on the back burner.
Well, about a month before I was to have Dane, my mom and I were talking about everything and we talked about getting married sooner rather than later. So after that, we decided that we were going to get married that summer. (Dane was born in March)
Derek was working and I want to say he made like $13 dollars at the time. And I was going to school and getting ready to have a baby. To say money was tight would be an understatement. My parents were able to help us a lot which was very helpful, but we still didn't have much to work with.
I picked out my wedding dress a few days before giving birth to Dane. I never got to try it on. Actually my mom did for me. It was a dress from the $99 sale at David's bridal and I absolutely love it. No regrets there.
So Dane comes into the world, and I pretty much let my sister do most of the planning. While I was pregnant she also go engaged, except she did it "right" and wasn't pregnant, HA! So she was more in bride mode than I was at that time. I had just given birth and just wanted to do whatever to make it look nice and be done with it and be married already!
I chose pink and blue for my colors. I saw them in a wedding magazine. Not my favorite looking back now. The dresses I picked out for the bridesmaids were from target and looked red in the pictures.
I had my sister Jessica, My sister Heather who is my "maid of honor" and my friend Carissa, and my cousin Cassie as bridesmaids.
Derek had his brother's Sam, Josh, his friend Tholin was his best man, and my cousin Brandon as his groomsman. The ring bearer was my cousin Jarrett.
My flower girl was my niece violet. Just a little girl at the time!
Our ceremony was at my mom's friend Fran's house in Saint George. It was so amazing of her to let us have our wedding on her property. We rented 100 white chairs, and a wooden arch from Waters. It was like $200 for both and I about died.
It was hot as a mother that day. Or maybe it was just me because I was in a ball gown in the middle of June?
Our ceremony was super fast. We were married by a justice of the piece that we were not even sure would show up. He was a little flaky about returning our phone calls.
My sister's soon-to-be husband did our DJ'ing.
The thing that most stands out about our ceremony is that there were bugs flying all round our faces and we were sweating our butts off standing up there. I do remember feeling so zoned out, like no body was there except him and I. It was a sweet feeling.
My step-dad Roger walked me down the isle. I struggled with this but am happy with my decision. I should have practiced walking in my huge dress though before walking down the isle. I felt like an idiot because I didn't know how to do it without tripping over my dress and go slow and all that.
Yes, I wore flip flops. We were married outside in the grass!
Dane was asleep through the whole thing. He was 2.5 months old at the time. I didn't have any special plans for him to be in the wedding, because he was so young. But here is a photo to prove he was there.
Dane is so funny, he sees the photos of our wedding and I explain to him that he was there, and he is like "was I in the car waiting for you?" LOL not sure where he gets this stuff.
Our reception was at the Legion in Saint George about a half mile away.
It cost i think $200 dollars to rent, and there was a cash bar. (regret) We didn't have dinner. (One of my regrets)
Everyone wanted to go outside and drink because we are rednecks and nobody wants to pay for the cash bar. So we tried to get people inside to do all the wedding stuff, and nobody wanted to listen.
Our first dance song was "I thought I loved you then" by Brad Paisley. Derek picked it out and it was so perfect for us.
Our cake was $80 from Dillons, and I smashed the side of it. I did that though after I realized that it was not how i ordered it. So they gave me $40 off of it, and so the total for the cake was $40!
Not to bad. I don't remember what it tasted like.
The most memorable part of the day is that everyone had or caught a terrible flu. Derek and I had it 3 days before the wedding and the day of the wedding were just starting to feel back to normal. My mom was so sick on the day of. And after the wedding I got word from a lot of the guests that they had caught it too. Talk about a parting gift. BLAH!
We didn't take a honeymoon and talk about doing one every year, but never do. Maybe when we are 50. HA!
If I had it to do over again, I would have saved up some more money, and did it up a little better. But like I said you can't change the past and I am overall happy with the day. I always tell brides-to-be that all that matters is that you are happy and in love and that you enjoy yourself. The expensive dress, the venue, all that is less important. You have to remember the reason for the "wedding" which is the marriage part!
We just celebrated our 4th anniversary and could not be any happier. Our love continues to grow and it is the most wonderful blessing that God could have given me in my life.